25 May Daring to Embrace “Good for ME”
A Call to Radical Self-Celebration
By Rev. Alaya Chadwick, M.S.W., M.Div.
Self-celebration is one of the most profound and transformative acts we can choose to engage in—yet, in our culture, it’s often discouraged. I call upon all UBMers to break free from this limitation. Let’s become champions and living examples of self-appreciation. Why is this so vital? Because it is glaringly absent in today’s world.
We are constantly taught to shame, blame, and critique ourselves and others. This toxic cycle permeates individuals, communities, states, and even nations. But we can be the ones to disrupt this pattern. Let’s be radical.
I was drawn to UBM (Universal Brotherhood Movement) for its simplicity in embracing radical authenticity. Now is the time for UBMers—pastors, congregations, and communities—to rise and take action. What might this look like? Imagine groups where, at every gathering, each person shares a moment of self-celebration. The ripple effects of this simple yet profound act are immeasurable.
At The (W)hole Point Institute, LLC, we integrate a self-celebration practice—known as GFM—into the opening and closing of all events. Let me share it with you:
- Place your hands over your heart.
- Gently pat your heart while saying: “Good for ME, Good for ME, Good for ME.”
Repeating this pattern three times serves the purpose of the unconscious mind truly absorbing the message on the third repetition
But this practice isn’t just about joy—it can help honor personal challenges as well. Consider a person who struggles to speak up at work. Each time they find their voice, they can silently affirm: “Good for me, Good for me, Good for me” while patting their heart. This internal celebration imprints self-appreciation in a powerful way—without drawing public attention. This is how one becomes a Radical Self-Celebrator in everyday life.
This is our Call to Action—an invitation to all UBMers to uplift themselves, their congregations, their communities, and, ultimately, the world.
With love and celebration for each of us—Good for US all.
Rev. Alaya